Ruel Macarayo: Your Healing Companion ❤️

Hearing Is Often the Last Sense to Fade

Ang Pandinig ang Huling Nawawala

Isa sa mga pinaka-intriguing facts ay na nakakarinig pa rin ang isang tao kahit hindi na siya tumutugon.
Key points:
Kahit hindi na nagsasalita, maaaring naririnig pa rin nila ang boses ng mga mahal nila.
Gentle words, prayers, at reassurances ay nakakapagbigay ng comfort.
Talking to them shows love and presence hanggang sa huling sandali.

2. Breathing Changes Are Normal

Normal ang Pagbabago ng Paghinga

Habang papalapit ang kamatayan, nagbabago ang breathing pattern ng katawan.
Key points:
Maaaring maging irregular, mabagal, o maingay ang paghinga.
May pagkakataon na may paghinto bago muling huminga.
These changes are usually not painful for the dying person.

3. The Body Slowly Shuts Down

Unti-unting Humihinto ang Katawan

Habang papalapit ang huling araw o oras, nagtitipid ng energy ang katawan.
Key points:
Nawawala ang gana sa pagkain at pag-inom.
Lumalamig ang kamay at paa dahil bumabagal ang circulation.
Skin may appear pale or mottled.
Hindi ito pagpapabaya—it’s the body’s natural way of letting go.

4 Emotional and Spiritual Awareness May Increase

Mas Lumalalim ang Emosyon at Espiritwal na Kamalayan

Maraming tao ang nagkakaroon ng spiritual experiences sa huling yugto ng buhay.
Key points:
May ilan na nakakakita o nakakausap ang yumaong mahal sa buhay.
Nagiging reflective tungkol sa buhay, regrets, at forgiveness.
Ang paghahanap ng peace at closure ay common.
These moments are often meaningful and comforting.

5. Pain Is Not Always Present

Hindi Laging May Matinding Sakit

Maraming tao ang takot na ang kamatayan ay laging masakit—pero hindi ito laging totoo.
Key points:
Hospice and palliative care focus on comfort.
Pain and symptoms can be managed.
Emotional pain may be more present than physical pain.
The goal is dignity, comfort, and peace.

My name is Ruel Macarayo-Manganiello, and I am a Mental Health & Wellness graduate with a focus on grief and bereavement. Grief is not just something I studied—it is something I have lived through deeply. Through loss, healing, and learning, I discovered that grief does not mean weakness. It means love, connection, and humanity.
Today, I’m opening a new space where I offer grief support and educational sessions for individuals who are navigating loss and don’t want to feel alone.

🕊️ What I offer • One-on-one grief support & mentoring
• Grief education and coping tools
• A safe, non-judgmental space to share your story
• Culturally sensitive and compassionate support
⚠️ These sessions are grief support and education, not therapy.

💵 Session Rate I currently offer 60-minute sessions on a sliding scale of $40–$75, depending on individual need.

🎁 Free Promotion / Intro Offer To celebrate this launch, I am offering: • A FREE 20-minute introductory call
(This is a chance for us to connect, see if we’re a good fit, and answer your questions—no pressure.)

🎓 My Background • Bachelor of Science in Psychology
• Graduate in Mental Health & Wellness
• Focus on grief, bereavement, and loss
• Continuing education in grief-informed care
• Lived experience navigating profound personal loss

📩 How to Contact Me If this speaks to you or someone you know: • Send me a direct message here on Facebook • Or comment “INFO” below and I will reach out privately
If this post resonates, please feel free to share—you never know who might need support today.
🤍 You don’t have to grieve alone.

1. The “Fragrance” of a Memory 🌸

Have you ever been sitting in a room and suddenly caught a whiff of your grandmother’s specific perfume, or the distinct scent of your father’s favorite pipe tobacco? If there’s no logical source for the smell, it’s often considered a “scent visit”—a way for them to let you know they’re standing right beside you.

2. Meaningful Animal Encounters 🦋

In many cultures, certain animals are seen as messengers. If a butterfly lands on you, a cardinal lingers on your windowsill, or a dragonfly follows you during a walk, pay attention. It’s often the spirit world using nature to say, “I’m watching over you.”

3.Electrical Disturbances ⚡

Energy doesn’t die; it transforms. Spirits are thought to vibrate at a high frequency, which can sometimes interfere with electronics.
Lights flickering for no reason.
Your phone acting up or playing a specific song.
Clocks stopping at the exact time of their passing.

4. Finding “Treasures” (Pennies & Feathers) 🪙

Finding a heads-up penny or a white feather in an unexpected place isn’t always a coincidence. Many believe these are “spiritual calling cards” left behind to remind you that you are supported and loved.

5. Dreams That Feel “Different” 🌙

There’s a big difference between a regular dream and a visitation dream. Visitation dreams are usually incredibly vivid, peaceful, and logical. You might wake up feeling a profound sense of calm, as if you actually spent time with them.
“Love is the one thing that transcends time and space.”
The next time you feel a sudden chill, hear “your song” on the radio at the perfect moment, or feel a gentle pressure on your shoulder—don’t overthink it. Just say hello back.
Tell me in the comments: Have you received a sign from a loved one lately? What happened?

Sa araw ng libing, lahat ay nagsabi kung gaano siya “matatag.”
Nakatayo siya sa tabi ng kabaong, tumatanggap ng yakap, nagpapasalamat sa mga dumating. Hindi siya bumagsak. Hindi siya umiyak. Nakangiti pa siya nang kaunti nang may nagbahagi ng alaala. Sa loob, pakiramdam niya ay parang wala siyang nararamdaman—parang ang katawan niya mismo ang nag-survive, hindi humingi ng permiso.
Ang pag-iyak ay dumating pagkatapos.
Tatlong linggo ang lumipas, sa aisle ng cereal sa grocery. Hinawakan niya ang paboritong brand na lagi nilang binibili—yung pinilit niya kahit mas mahal. Tumigil ang kanyang kamay sa hangin. Bigla, parang masyadong maliwanag at maingay ang paligid. Sikip ang dibdib niya. Bumuhos ang luha bago niya man lang mapigilan.
Iniwan niya ang cart at lumabas ng grocery, nahihiya, nalilito, at galit sa sarili.
Walang nagsasabi na ang pagdadalamhati ay hindi sumusunod sa schedule ng sympathy cards at mga pagkain na dinadala sa bahay. Walang nagtuturo na pagkatapos ng libing, inaasahan ng mundo na bumalik ka sa normal—habang ang buong konsepto mo ng normal ay nawala na.
Sa bahay, patuloy pa rin niyang natatamaan na sinasabi niya sa kanya ang mga bagay na hindi na niya masasabi. Patuloy pa rin siyang natutulog sa isang side ng kama. Patuloy pa rin niyang sine-save ang mga memes sa phone para ipakita sa kanya, ngunit natatandaan muli—na ang “mamaya” ay hindi na pareho.
Maganda ang intensyon ng mga tao.
“Sabihin mo lang kung may kailangan ka.”
“Hindi siya gugustuhin na malungkot ka.”
“Sa isip mo, maganda pa rin ang mga taon niyo.”
Pero bawat komento ay mabigat, kahit sabihin ito ng may pagmamahal. Ang kailangan niya ay hindi solusyon. Hindi ito positibidad. Ang kailangan niya ay pahintulot—na magmahal pa rin, malungkot pa rin, bumagsak nang tahimik, at magdalamhati nang walang takdang oras.
May mga araw na nagagawa niyang gumana. May mga araw na ang simpleng pagsisipilyo ay parang isang tagumpay. Natutunan niya na ang pagdadalamhati ay hindi lang kalungkutan—ito ay pagod, ulap sa isip, guilt, galit, at pananabik na nakatali sa mga pangkaraniwang sandali.
Sa paglipas ng panahon, may nagbago—hindi dahil nawala ang sakit, kundi dahil natutunan niyang paano dalhin ito.
Muli siyang nagsimulang magsalita tungkol sa kanya. Pinayagan niyang umiyak nang hindi humihingi ng paumanhin. Natuklasan niyang ang pag-move forward ay hindi nangangahulugang iiwan siya—kundi matutunan kung paano mabuhay habang patuloy na minamahal ang isang taong wala na.
Hindi natapos ang pagdadalamhati.
Ngunit hindi rin natapos ang pagmamahal.
At dahan-dahan, unti-unti, napagtanto niya na ang makaligtas ay hindi pagtataksil—ito ay pagpapatuloy ng buhay.